A bottoms guide to anal sex

When I was little, my father would drag my sister and me out in the cold morning in camouflage outfits and orange hats to sit with him in a deer stand and practice shooting his gun. This was a necessity for a young boy in the South. While his tutelage never stuck, he might be surprised to learn that I still grew up to be a hunter. All I need is a drawstring shoulder bag carrying my keys, wallet, cell phone, and a douching bulb for emergency visits to the nearest bathroom.

I think part of my fascination with the topic was directly linked to my strong need to please the guys I had sex with. Sure, you could look at videos to see how other people got pounded but deep inside, you always knew they were acting. Who would have thought gay acceptance carried such perks? Can I tell you a secret? When I first started receiving anal, I thought all you had to do was take a dump and wham — you were ready to get plowed. After that not so easy to hear bit of advice, I began a radical quest for knowledge on how to properly first time bottom, including what to do for preparation. I talked to anyone I could about this topic — particularly older men who proudly identified as power bottoms.

Joseph Terlizzi , a New York-based colon and rectal surgeon, for the lowdown on how gay and bi men can prepare, how to do the deed, and how to stay safe post-coital. Check out his expert advice on how to make anal sex more pleasurable:. While maintaining anal hygiene is important, people tend to be too fastidious when it comes to cleaning up before anal intercourse. Common mistakes I see patients make include using chemical wipes the perfumes and preservatives make them irritating and wiping too much friction can lead to abrasions.

When I was little, my father would drag my sister and me out in the cold morning in camouflage outfits and orange hats to sit with him in a deer stand and practice shooting his gun. This was a necessity for a young boy in the South. While his tutelage never stuck, he might be surprised to learn that I still grew up to be a hunter. All I need is a drawstring shoulder bag carrying my keys, wallet, cell phone, and a douching bulb for emergency visits to the nearest bathroom. Depending on the environment — a dive bar versus a dance club, a bathhouse or a play party — I might be wearing more clothes or less, but the target is the same: men and anal sex.