Sex back in life

Anticipation is part of the reason why sex is so hot at the beginning of relationships, so building it back in helps to get your sex life back on track. A new client recently began our session with "I'm just not that into sex anymore. It's not that I don't think about it, I just don't have the same kind of drive for sex that I used to have. It affects all kinds of people of all relationship statuses, but its roots can be found in similar areas. Singles come to me explaining that they don't think about themselves sexually and they feel out of touch with their own sexual energy.

This can be simply down to the fact that sexual interest tends to ebb and flow over time. It can also be related to specific issues in the relationship or external pressures from outside it. Anxieties surrounding sex can also come from different expectations about how much sex you think you should be having. They may also need the setting and mood to feel right. The best way to do that is to talk to your partner.

It happens to the best of couples. But over time, especially when life gets tough, that sexy spark can fizzle. The signs that a couple is in a sexual rut can vary, according to Amy Levine, a New York City-based sex coach and the founder of Ignite Your Pleasure , but some common ones include:.

Reclaim your sexual power by finding new ways to move and get comfortable in your body. Experts say dopamine and other chemicals in the brain are directly linked to physical attraction and romantic passion, which is why bonding over a new activity together could help spark arousal. A online research survey on 1, men and women ages showed that men and women have wildly different sexual expectations. These expectations are unlikely to change overnight, so couples must communicate their likes and dislikes in bed in order to have a mutually pleasurable experience.